How ‘Are We Dating the Same Guy’ Started

Women have been vetting potential partners online long before Tea came around! Are We Dating the Same Guy (AWDTSG) started out as a series of individual Facebook groups, where women could share dating experiences and seek advice. It has since become an app available on the App Store and Google Play.

The Facebook groups are still active to this day, though, and have amassed millions of members. There is an AWDTSG group for almost every major city in the United States, and each group has explicit rules. For instance, members are not allowed to spread hate towards men or post personal information. The groups are moderated by volunteers- however, with millions of members, it can be difficult to enforce the rules…

Additionally, according to The Washington Post, some moderators are instructed not to remove post and “are told not to respond to men asking to have posts about them removed.”

Is ‘Are We Dating the Same Guy’ Defamation?

If someone publicly posted an untrue, harmful statement that identifies you then, potentially, yes. Otherwise, likely not. Posting or participating within the AWDTSG community is not inherently defamatory.

Additionally, statements of opinion cannot be defamatory. A post calling you a terrible person with no other context does not give you the green light to pursue legal action.

Co-founder Raees Mohamed says this about the page: “Getting posted on Are We Dating the Same Guy can have devastating consequences to someone’s life if the statements accuse you of criminal acts, such as non-consensual sexual contact. And since this group is usually a closed Facebook group, hundreds if not thousands of people may see it in the group. But in some cases it’s shared as a screen shot in private group chats.”

What is Online Defamation

For a statement to be considered defamatory on Are We Dating the Same Guy, it must be:

1. False: The statement must be factually incorrect. If the statement is true, then it cannot be considered defamation.
2. Published: The statement must be shared publicly, meaning others must have seen or heard it.
3. Identifying: The statement must identify you as the subject or you must prove that any reasonable person who read or heard the statement would understand it to be about you.
4. Harmful: The statement must have caused reputational damage, financial loss, or emotional distress.
5. Negligent: The statement must have been made negligently or with reckless disregard for the truth.

In the context of ‘Are We Dating the Same Guy,’ defamation can take the form of libel or slander.

• Libel is a written or published false statement that damages a person’s reputation. Libel can include posts, comments, reviews, or even private messages.
• Slander is a verbal or spoken false statement that harms someone’s reputation. Slander can include live videos, podcasts, or recorded phone calls.

However, it’s important to note that there is a statute of limitations for defamation action. The time frame varies state-by-state, but it is typically short so time is of the essence.

What To Do if You’re Defamed on AWDTSG

1. Collect Evidence: Document the defamatory content by taking screenshots and saving relevant posts, comments, or messages.
2. Alert the Platform or Moderator: Report the defamation to the appropriate support team, then verify the content has not been reposted elsewhere.
3. Consult a Defamation Lawyer: An RM Warner Law defamation attorney can advise on the best course of action. This may involve privately requesting a retraction or removal.
4. Issue Demand: If your request goes unanswered, then your defamation lawyer will serve a cease-and-desist order to demand the removal of the offending content.
5. Legal Action: If the demand is ignored, then your defamation attorney will help you file a lawsuit to seek damages for any harm and financial losses.

How RM Warner Law’s Defamation Lawyers Help You

In addition to providing legal counsel, our team will support you in restoring your reputation and offer helpful reputation management tips. The lawyers at RM Warner Law can also help with content removal. If defamation has spread to other social media platforms or online sources, we can take action!

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